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This is my first entry on theangerguy blog. I look forward to helping you confront the anger problem(s) in your life. Ask me a question or tell me your story, and I will respond.
Remember: If you talk it out, you won’t feel compelled to act it out; and vice versa.
Have Two Good Days!
this is a difficult thing my wife is dealing with an alcohol addiction i have a major anger issue which you can guess does not mix i get mad when she drinks she drinks more when i get mad i know its a really confusing situation i would love a start ing point of where to go from your help would be appreciated
Joey,
It sounds to me like you want her to change so that you don’t have to. I’m not suggesting that her drinking problem is acceptable, but that problem belongs to her. Your problem is accepting that there is little you can do but tell her and decide what you are going to do should she not deal with it. It’s likely that you get angry when you want people close to you to change, instead of accepting that you can’t change anyone. If they change, it’s because they decided to.
Your life and your happiness is your responsibility; not hers. I know it doesn’t seem fair, but it’s reality…and sometimes reality really sucks.
So accept what you see and then decide how you are going to handle it. I suggest going to an Alanon meeting; where people just like you deal specifically with spouses and others close to them who have drinking problems. Your anger is more harmful to you than her. And it’s obviously not working. So you change and regardless of what she does, be in charge of your own happiness. It belongs to you.
My husband fits the “angry man” bill. This is really hard for me, because I need emotional connectedness in our relationship and he seems to withdraw a lot. For about a month now, he has been completely distant from me, saying that our relationship is awful and he just wants to be left alone. He says that I don’t like anything about him. This is certainly untrue and he tends to take everything I say as a negative. Especially lately. I have been trying everything to reconnect with him, but I am seriously concerned that he doesn’t love me anymore and wants me to leave. I can’t talk to him about anything without it turning into a vicious fight.
What is the best way to handle this situation? He says he wants to be left alone, but that just allows him to withdraw even more. How do I connect with him?
I would like to forward this link to my husband but that may make him mad. He seems to try & convince himself that I am so annoying that’s why he rages at me. How do I get him to work on his anger issues once & for all?